(CNN)The staff at an Idaho public library spends most days helping patrons find books they need. But lately, librarians have had to become amateur sleuths — because someone keeps hiding books to prevent others from reading them.
(CNN)The staff at an Idaho public library spends most days helping patrons find books they need. But lately, librarians have had to become amateur sleuths — because someone keeps hiding books to prevent others from reading them.
Maybe Tom DeLonge had a point after all.
The former Blink-182 guitarist and singer whos morphed into perhaps had some of his credentials legitimized when a Navy spokesperson said that three videos posted to DeLonges UFO research website showed unidentified aerial phenomena this week.
The Navy considers the phenomena contained/depicted in these videos as unidentified, spokesperson Joseph Gradisher told the Black Vault website.
Three videos were posted to DeLonges organization To the Stars Academy of Arts and Sciences (TTSA) and the New York Times in late 2017 and early 2018. Though DeLonges organization said the U.S. government had declassified the videos so the public could see them, a Pentagon spokesperson told the Black Vault earlier this year that wasnt the case. The videos were never officially released to the general public by the [Department of Defense] and should still be withheld, the spokesperson said.
One video showed footage from 2004 when pilots in an F/A-18 Super Hornet off the coast of San Diego encountered an oblong flying object without wings or a tail that they couldnt explain.
As NBC Chicago noted, The footage shows the moment a U.S. Navy F/A-18 Super Hornet crew spots the aircraft with an onboard forward-looking infrared system. Flying around 300 mph at 25,000 feet, the Super Hornet crew at first has trouble locking their sensor on the aircraft as it flies at low altitude above the ocean. Once they are able to track it, cockpit audio reveals just how excited, and curious, the crew was about the find.
According to the TTSA, the object was hovering without a propulsion exhaust plume and had extreme maneuverability and startling changes in acceleration.
Wrote the TTSA: It is because we cannot replicate these flight characteristics with existing technology, we believe this is indicative of beyond next generation technologies and necessitates further research.
In another video released by the TTSA, pilots are recorded marveling at what theyre seeing.
Gradisher would not say what the videos might have shown, commenting that The Navy has not publicly released characterizations or descriptions, nor released any hypothesis or conclusions, in regard to the objects contained in the referenced videos.
DeLonge left Blink-182 in 2015, and since then, hes focused much of his attention on outer space and what other life it might hold. He was in 2017, and hes not treating it as some kind of joke.
People will be like Oh, you believe in UFOs, but Im reading books on physics, Im reading books on the secret space program, Im talking to people that work underground for six months at a time, that are confiding in me about the national security initiatives, DeLonge told Paperin 2015. Ive literally read 200 books on the subject, and I dont spend my time looking at UFO reports or talking to little green men.
Now, the U.S. Navy has legitimized him even moreeven if its not exactly happy the footage came out in the first place.
Don’t come for Kourtney Kardashian!
The eldest Keeping Up With the Kardashians star is no stranger to criticism from trolls online; it kind of comes with the territory of being part of her famous family, after all.
But on Tuesday, the reality TV star took to Instagram to clap back at a few fans who had an issue with one of her recent posts which promoted her lifestyle brand, Poosh. Unsurprisingly, Kourt is NOT having it with the negativity!!
The drama started after the 40-year-old shared a photo of herself lounging in a large, porcelain bathtub. The star appears to be somewhat clothed in a white, loose button-up blouse with her bare feet hanging off the edge.
The caption makes it clear the point of Kardashian’s post is to promote her new Positively Poosh diffuser and essential oils kit. But, fans were way more focused on the book in her hand!
Before we move any further, ch-ch-check out the buzzworthy flick (below):
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Diffusing has become a part of my daily wellness routine which is why I am very happy to announce our latest collab, the saje x @poosh Positively Poosh diffuser and essential oil kit. I designed this diffuser to look like decor, not a tech gadget, so it will suit anyone’s home. The custom essential oil scent we formulated is clean and uplifting with notes of rose, lavender, and grapefruit. The diffuser is available in both white and grey, and they launch Monday, September 30 at 9am pst at shop.poosh.com 🥀
After the image went live, several followers started questioning whether the mother-of-three was actually reading the pictured novel.
(We’re struggling to see why people even care when half of her family’s life is just for show, but we digress…)
When one user insinuated Kourt has “never read a book” in her life, the KUWTK star countered she actually graduated college. Hence, she’s read more than a few books! See (below):
1. Was going to go to a bar with a girl I met on Tinder. She showed up 15 minutes late, which wasn’t that big of a deal. Got out of her car, crossed the street, and then awkwardly shook my hand. Told me she forgot her ID at home, apologized, and then left.
2. It’s hard to say I was catfished because the actual girl was there, but so was her boyfriend and her friend she thought I would be a better match with. What made it more odd, is she had sent nudes, full face nudes not photoshopped face swapped I could see the chest tat on her in person no mistaking that.
3. She brought a stuffed animal. Not a tiny little thing some (young) women clip to their keychain. It was a gigantic blue rabbit at least as big as a toddler. She said she brought it because she sometimes gets scared in movies (we were seeing a comedy.)
After the movie, we grabbed some ice cream and drove the cousins home. My date invited me to kiss her at the door, but told me I should also kiss Pebbles so he wouldn’t be jealous.
4. Hooked up with a girl (she was 28) with dentures and she gave me a gum job.
5. We were going mini golfing and the dude picked me up wearing a full on tux.
It was so odd and everything about the date was uncomfortable.
6. The guy picked me up, and asked me where I wanted to go. I said, “Oh just somewhere kinda nice, not too fancy, but a good place to have a conversation. Maybe a coffee shop? And just somewhere kind of on the other side of town, I spend all day in this neighborhood.” He took me to a Hardee’s literally one block away. During the date he talked almost exclusively about his sexual fetishes.
7. The weirdest was when I was a college junior and dated a girl that was a classmate.
She wanted to have a “picnic” in a cemetery at a gravesite where her ex was buried (he had been killed in a crash 2 years prior).
I told her that I’d accompany her to visit his grave, but that picnicking and having a good time there somehow didn’t seem appropriate.
8. He took me to a supermarket. I don’t know why, but he had to start it somewhere, so it started there.
9. I was talking to dude on Tinder and decided to meet up with him for coffee one day. He only talked in impersonations of WWE wrestlers and then asked me to go to Wrestlemania with him and his entire family later that night.
10. I went on a date with a girl I met online. All throughout the date she kept looking over at me and then laughing, but not really in a mean way. After a while I called her out on it and she basically said, sorry but you really look like my brother. Then she shows me a picture and low and behold, he looks more like my brother than hers. I still can’t figure out why she agreed to go on the date in the first place when she could tell this was the case from my profile pic.
11. The one that ended with me asking if she wanted to go on another date some time and she responded with, “Um… I really like this guy Jason…”
SHE was the one who asked ME out!
12. Met someone online and we decided to meet in person for a date. It was awkward for the first few minutes, but then she just said, “I can dab if that will make it less awkward,” and then proceeded to do so. There was no second date.
13. First ever date, we watched , half way in he shows me a picture of a dog sticking his tongue out with the text “kiss?” above it, and when I turned to him he gave me a peck on the lips and went on as if nothing happened.
14. Dated a woman who didn’t tell me she needed meds because she was psychotic. In the middle of dinner (at a restaurant) she got quiet and distracted. I asked if she was feeling okay. Apparently one of the voices told her I was a horrible person and she pulled a steak knife on me.
A customer was able to talk to her, and got her to put the knife down. The police were called, and she was arrested. I didn’t press charges, and about a week later, she sent me a letter with proof that she’s been in counseling for a long time, takes medication, and included a heartfelt apology.
15. I went on a date with a girl to a bar and grill. The girl just got set free from a bad relationship. The bartender was her uncle, the server was her sister, and her fresh ex-boyfriend was there on a date with another guy.
16. It was supposed to be a coffee date. I got there, on time, and he had already ordered and drank his coffee. I went up to get mine, he just stared at me from the table while I was ordering. The date itself lasted about 2 hours and I honestly can’t remember a single thing we talked about, because he wasn’t contributing to the conversation at all. There was one point where I was just staring at him and I remember thinking, “If he doesn’t bring up a topic of conversation in the next 30 seconds, I’m leaving.” Dude genuinely just stared at me. Maybe he was trying to communicate telepathically, I’m not sure.
When I tried to leave, he insisted that I stay. Why???? We haven’t talked about anything and it’s been 2 hours! Weird guy. I did end up going on a second date with him, but it was just as awkward. Called it quits after that.
17. In college, I went on a date with a dude who got all excited that we were on the same psychiatric medication. Like, I’m pretty sure he thought it made us soulmates or something. It was… different.
18. Met a girl at a coffee shop for a blind date in the early 2000s. We ordered, sat down, and started talking the usual stuff about ourselves. Things took a turn once we reached the employment portion of the conversation. Once I said that I was an animator she told me it was childish and left.
19. She spent the whole date on her tablet and phone, even though she asked me out. She is still single, she has not learnt.
20. Matched with a girl on a dating app who seemed super chill and sweet. Asked her out and we made plans to get dinner at a local burger joint.
We meet and after introductions she spent an entire hour bitching about how much her life sucks, how much she hates school, how annoying her managers at work are, how crazy her family is, etc etc. I get that part of dating is revealing your likes and dislikes, but for God’s sake don’t be a negative person who can’t quit complaining.
Felt like I had been emotionally catfished. Thankfully never heard from her again.
21. Went on a date with a girl who revealed that her hobby was buying dead little mice, doing taxidermy on them and then dressing them up in tiny little metal battle armor and swords to stage historical battles… using dead mice… that she bought online.
She showed me lots of pictures before the date ended.
22. Told a girl I was into granola environmental shit. She replied, “Me too.” We hit it off quickly. Anyway… She kept talking up how incredible her job was and that she taught a bunch of kids about environmental issues and how amazing this job was. Basically begging me to come check it out. So we picked a day and I took the day off from work. It had been a while since we saw each other so she decided it would be fun to send me real kinky texts about fun places we could sneak off to around her work as it was her fantasy. I was down, and I was getting in the mood myself.
I drive to her work, only to find out she works at a trash burning power plant and recycling center and on that day we’ll be giving a tour to a bunch of preschoolers. Throughout the “date”, basically every chance she could, she would try to get me turned on when no one was looking….there were about 20 kids and teachers right there! Meanwhile we’re walking through piles of rotten trash, or looking at machinery that could kill you in an instant if you stepped over a boundary line, or staring into a white hot furnace to see the burning trash. Therefore you walked around the dirtier you felt, which in a way was not surprising. I still had the worst blue balls in my life which in itself was questionable. Anyway… The tour ended, she took me in her office and well let’s just say it took three showers and a waive to a priest to feel clean after that.
23. Went on a first date where someone asked me why I cut my hair so short. I guess I could have lied or blown off the question, but I don’t like to start anything with falsehood, so I told him that I had chemo for breast cancer—that I’ll probably be completely fine now, and we absolutely didn’t have to talk about it. He asked me a few questions about the surgery (single mastectomy), and he said, “I wanna know which one it is, but I can’t look at your boobs NOW!”
I told him if he could guess which boob got the axe, I’d buy the drinks and appetizer. He won, and I never saw him again.
I’m positive I am the weirdest date THAT guy has ever been on.
24. My first dating app date. Starts off pretty good, we barely put in our dinner order and her phone starts blowing up. Her ex was drunk and causing a scene outside her apt. Her ex kept calling, then her roommate started and then the landlord calls threatening to call the police. We get our food to go and I take her back to her apt. Long story short, both her and her ex are crying messes, she goes inside, leaves me outside with crying drunk ex who starts telling me all about how he messed their relationship. Dude is way too drunk to drive, I end up driving him to his apt, Uber back to my car, realize my date took all the food with her. The joys of dating!
25. I was interested in this girl, and she kind of tricked me into a double date where she was dating another guy and had fixed me up with her sister. Being a good sport, I went along with it and it was awkward but okayish. But then she set me up with her sister again and this time it was just the two of us.
We went to the park. She had filled the trunk of her car with troll dolls (I mean dozens and dozens of them) and spent the entire date introducing me to her trolls one by one. (I should mention we were in our 20s.) She was getting frustrated and angry because I didn’t seem all that interested in her dolls. So sitting there, hands full of troll dolls, she exasperatedly asks me, “So are we going to have sex? Do you even know how to have sex?”
“Umm, not with you I don’t.” I said, and got up and walked home. There’s only so much one can endure while being polite.
26. I went on a 4 hour date with a woman who rides horses for a living.
The entire 4 hours she told me everything I could possibly want to know about horses and then some.
I learned so much about horses that I done forgot most the shit she told me.
27. I matched with a Chinese exchange student on Tinder. She asked me to meet her at her apartment, then we’d go link up with some of her friends at the waterfront. We’re texting as I’m on the way over, and she days she didn’t realize this was a date. Nonetheless, she asks me to pick up dinner for both of us on the way over.
I get to her apartment, and before I can even take my jacket off, she says, “So, do you have anything to say to me?” Presumably because I’d spent 15 seconds in silence. I offer her the food she asked for, she said she wasn’t hungry. I try to strike up a conversation, but she dead ends every topic I bring up. She starts texting, and making phone calls. She was speaking Mandarin, presumably, but I was able to make it the name of the place we were supposed to meet her friends. She said something about how plans might change because her friend needs help.
Throughout all this, I just sat by myself, eating my sandwich in silence. When I was finished, I asked if she just wanted me to leave. She said yes, then gave me $20 for dinner.
28. Dated a man who corrected my Polish, because his grandmother was Polish and she told him how to pronounce some words.
Mind you, I was brought up in Poland, went to school and college there, read a zillion books, saw a zillion Polish movies etc. But this guy was very condescending about my pronunciation of the few words he learnt from his grandma.
29. Went to the church of Scientology, roped in with promises of free food. We were on a date for Christmas. So, so odd.
30. When I was 15, a girl asked me to the movies. It was Her parents decided to attend too. Then one of the characters cursed like 10 minutes into the movie and the parents told us we were leaving. They took me right home and that was that.
31. The girl took me to a cemetery at night, walked me to a grave, explained that it was her cousin and that night was the anniversary of his death, then told me a long story about the time he raped her.
32. Third date with a guy from hinge. Started of completely normal- went to a pub for a few drinks. Pub closes. Guy invites me back to his.
We get back to his and have a few more drinks, he then asks if I’d like to smoke a joint. Hadn’t smoked for a few years but thought “hey it’ll be fine”. End up feeling very sick and unable to move. Guy doesn’t have a bucket or bowl so brings over the entire kitchen bin and places it next to me. He then suggests we watch a movie.
Guy puts on American Psycho and I sit there for the next two hours paralyzed and paranoid completely convinced he’s going to murder me.
Also he lived on a boat.
33. I went on a date with this girl from tinder. She “super liked” me and messaged first, so I was really happy to have someone interested. I asked if she’d like to go for a walk some time and she said she’d love to.
So we get to walking and like 5 minutes in, she asks if I have roommates. I said yes, I live with 5 people and tell her about a few of them. “Theres Max, Matt, Mark,…” “Wait, Mark Smith? I know him! What’s he been up to…”
So we start chatting about my roommate and she knows a lot about him. His family, the sports he plays, his girlfriend. Every time I try to move the conversation somewhere else, she brings it back to Mark. She’s not even pretending to be into me anymore, she’s just fangirling out over my roommate. “I just love him, his hair is always so shiny and he smells so nice!”. She spends the full 2 hours talking about him and asking all sorts of questions. I didn’t really know what to do, so I just boredly keep answering.
When we get back to our cars, she shifts gears again. “Hey, so I had a really great time. Want to go back to your place to have some fun?”. She’s really creeping me out at this point, so I tell her I have homework to do and maybe later.
I get back and tell Mark about the date and he knows exactly who she is. He picks up his phone and immediately calls the police. They show up at the house find the girl outside in the back yard and arrest her for violating a restraining order or something.
It turned our she was super unstable and had stalked my roommate since they went on one date almost a year prior. She recognized from photos she had of him and used me to find out where he lived.
34. I dated a dancer one time. We meet up. She looks phenomenal. Terrific outfit, nails, brow game, makeup. Really earned attention to detail points. We go to the best steakhouse in town. Order a couple of surf n turfs. Grab coldies. It’s going well. Food comes. We dig in.
This chick ate like a complete pig. Like watching Daryl Hannah in Splash. Bitch had lobster in her hair, down her dress. It was almost impossible to watch. I bowed out at the earliest possible moment.
35. Guy starts showing me pics of his super super old cat. Which is not a problem, I love cats, I told him that I also have a cat.
But then he starts explaining… He recently adopted this elderly cat because in cat years he calculated that it would be his mother’s age. He named it after his mother. Full name. And his mother had just died.
I stayed real calm and kind about the whole thing, people cope in their own ways, but that’s a weird red flag amirite?
36. This guy I matched with on Tinder was bragging about his dance moves so we went to this bar/cafe type place near where I live. Turns out he can’t dance for shit and was just doing some weird side-step over and over again, then he whispered “Want to give them a show?” in my ear and tried to make out with me. I barely said 5 sentences to this dude.
37. I had a girl bring me to a bingo night. At a Shriner’s hall. We were the youngest people there by a quarter of a century at least. And we were both pretty terrible at it.
38. Within 5 minutes of sitting down to dinner, the lady whipped out a handwritten epic poem (at least 50 pages) about how she had broken up with her last boyfriend because he loved weed. She then proceeded to read the poem aloud in a crowded restaurant.
39. My first official bf took me to his Christian church for our first date. and it was one of those scary churches where people throw themselves on the ground sobbing and convinced the lord is in them. Sure take the pagan to a Christian church.
40. I went on a first date with a dude a few months ago and halfway through dinner, he pulls out a folder with a thick stack of paper in it and slides it over to me.
Turns out it was a contract for dating and eventually marrying him, listing all the requirements he had for an SO. I got through about two pages before I laughed, stood up, and left.
“From Arkansas to the White House and back, I’m excited to tell my story about the challenges of being a working mom at the highest level of American politics, and my role in the historic fight raging between the Trump administration and its critics for the future of our country,” Sanders said in a statement.
“From Arkansas to the White House and back, I’m excited to tell my story about the challenges of being a working mom at the highest level of American politics, and my role in the historic fight raging between the Trump administration and its critics for the future of our country.”
George White, editor-in-chief of St. Martin’s Press, added that the book “will offer a truly unique perspective on the most important issues, events, and both public and behind-the-scenes conversations inside the White House.”
Sanders worked on Trump’s presidential campaign before succeeding Sean Spicer as White House press secretary in July 2017. During her tenure, she was known for her contentious relationship with the White House press corps and eventually ended the decades-old tradition of formal daily White House press briefings, instead arranging for Trump to address reporters himself, the New York Times reported.
She stepped down from the role in June, and Stephanie Grisham was named to take her place. Announcing her departure, Trump tweeted that Sanders was “a very special person with extraordinary talents.” “We’ve been through a lot together. She’s tough and she’s good,” Trump said on stage at a separate White House event. Trump also called her a “warrior” and encouraged her to run for governor in Arkansas in 2022, a position once held by her father, Mike Huckabee.
Sanders launched a campaign-style website in August that features a lengthy bio and photos of her with President Trump but has yet to officially announce a bid for governor, Politico reported. She joined Fox News as a contributor this month.
An elegantly made attempt to transport the Pulitzer prize-winning novel to the screen boasts a strong cast but a confused emotional focus
Is Donna Tartts Pulitzer prize-wining novel The Goldfinch unadaptable? Is it possible to condense 784 globetrotting pages of romance, terrorism, grief, drug addiction and art world espionage into a coherent and dramatically satisfying movie? After 149 minutes of Brooklyn director John Crowleys much-anticipated, and much-feared, attempt, the answer appears to be shrug emoji?
Because its neither a rousing success nor an embarrassing failure, falling somewhere in between, closer to admirable attempt. Most importantly, its nowhere near the ungainly mess some had expected, its many, many moving parts stitched together with an elegant hand and unlike some weighty adaptations, theres a motivation behind it that seems to stretch further than because we should? While it shifts tone, genre and location, the focus remains on Theo (Oakes Fegley and then Ansel Elgort), whose mother dies in a terrorist attack when hes 13 and whose life is forever wounded as a result. His father absent, Theo is sent to temporarily live with the family of a schoolfriend and he grows close to the matriarch Samantha (Nicole Kidman), a chilly woman who bonds with him over their mutual love of art. When his father Larry (Luke Wilson) re-emerges, Theo is sent to live with him, and his uncaring girlfriend Xandra (Sarah Paulson) and so begins a journey from carer to carer and place to place as Theo struggles to figure out who he is and where he belongs.
Theres a sturdy engine motoring us through the strong opening scenes, the work of a storyteller in confident control of his narrative but once Wilson and Paulson barrel into view, playing cartoonish and arguably classist caricatures, were immediately taken out of the film. Its just two well-known stars doing a rather tiresome bit and their performances are distracting and clash against the smooth work done by both Kidman and an impressive Fegley up until that point. Theyre not painted with quite such grotesque strokes as say Margo Martindale in Million Dollar Baby but theres a similar snobbishness in how the film, and perhaps Tartt, seems to view those who dont live on the Upper East Side and who dont frequent galleries.
Crowleys film is one of vignettes, some of which possess more power than others, and its to his credit that despite the fractured nature of the story, were compelled to know where hes taking us and what will happen to Theo, an often unknowable protagonist. Some might have sniffed at the casting of Elgort, who received similar head scratches when he was cast as Tony in Steven Spielbergs forthcoming adaptation of West Side Story, but hes surprisingly convincing here, quietly anchoring an uneven film with poise. Theres also reliably strong character work from Jeffrey Wright as one of the many adult figures he encounters along the way while as mentioned, its yet another strong performance from an on-a-roll Kidman.
Its a handsomely made adaptation that might lack a particularly distinctive style other than studio prestige, but it shows how Crowley has progressed as a film-maker since Brooklyn, a film I found to be rather prosaic. He proves himself to be a safe hand for the most part as screenwriter Peter Straughan shows himself to be mostly adept at bringing a dense novel to the screen. But as the film enters its third act, the emotional centre never really materialises, a romantic connection fizzles out and a silly plot contrivance as well as an uninvolving lurch into thriller theatrics dampens our interest and investment. The propulsion that got us here doesnt really lead to a gratifying payoff, like taking a long road trip that reaches a dead end, and as the film starts to wrap up, theres not enough of a throughline to justify both the films mammoth length and its grand sense of self.
The Goldfinch resembles one of the many pieces of art that Theo admires during the film: its exquisite to look at but impossible to touch.
The Goldfinch is showing at the Toronto film festival and will be released in the US on 13 September and in the UK on 27 September
Working in customer service has its ups and downs. But one bookstore employee has had such an up, it felt like heaven. Some time ago, tumblr user beepboop-its-a-robot witnessed an old lady buying a complete stranger $400 worth of textbooks. Considering that the average student in the USA spends around $1,200 a year on books and supplies, that’s quite a gesture. Heck, she even tossed in some chocolates. And when you learn about her own son’s sad fate, the story becomes even more profound.
Image credits: beepboop-its-a-robot
The student who got to experience this lady’s kind heart isn’t the only one who could use her help. Textbook prices have been soaring. And that’s putting it lightly. According to NBC’s review of Bureau of Labor Statistics (BLS) data, textbook prices have risen over three times the rate of inflation from January 1977 to June 2015. A 1,041 percent increase.
“They’ve been able to keep raising prices because students are ‘captive consumers.’ They have to buy whatever books they’re assigned,” said Nicole Allen, a spokeswoman for the Scholarly Publishing and Academic Resources Coalition.
Some compare these numbers to a pharmaceutical sales model where the publishers spend their time wooing the decision makers to adopt their product. In this case, however, it’s professors instead of doctors. “Professors are not price-sensitive and they then assign and students have no say,” said Ariel Diaz, CEO of Boundless, a free and low-cost textbook publisher.
We all know the saying ‘beggars can’t be choosers?’ but time and time again people like to challenge this idea by doing the exact opposite. Here at Bored Panda, we love to share some absurd stories and nothing is quite as ridiculous as choosy beggars who take no issue with asking for handouts – but only on their own terms.
The following list is a collection of posts from the internet of the best of the worst of these types. From Asking from haggling over price points to roasting their loved ones for thoughtful gifts scroll down to check out these ridiculous posts and don’t forget to upvote your favs!
It’s a good trait to be generous – but it’s also good to know when you’re being taken advantage of. Not everyone has the skills to say “no” to moochers, users, and choosy beggars, so Bored Panda has collected some various tips. First, it is important to communicate the boundaries or conditions around what you are giving to them.
If you want to help, haggle or handout – go for it- but also know that it is ok to say “no”! Some people take generosity to mean that you can be pushed to give more and more. If someone has assumed that your niceness means that you won’t say no, respectfully remind them of your limits. In some cases, people won’t want to continue to have transactions after you turn them down, and that’s ok.
Two years ago I saw that guy with the gas can begging for money. Tried to give him four dollars, but he said he doesn’t take anything less than five. After that I saw him there everyday for months. Turns out he’s a fraud with a new Jeep and a nice house. Been following him with this sign since.
Don’t let yourself be consumed by guilt – set your boundaries and stick to them. Just because you can be accommodating doesn’t mean you should. Most of us are taught to share what we have with those less fortunate, but giving back doesn’t mean sacrificing your worth. Sure you can afford to cut a little off a price, but you are not responsible for other people’s financial burdens. Remember if you give an inch to someone who is trying to take advantage they will want more.
Lastly, don’t feel bad when you shame a freeloader. We should always treat others with respect but in some cases, you need to be extra firm. “A freeloader really cares nothing for your needs and thoughts, even if they convince you that they do. They also rarely care for normal social etiquette.”
The expression ‘Beggars can’t be choosers’? first recorded into print in 1546, when it appeared in a book of proverbs compiled by John Heywood. The first form was written as ‘Folk say alway, beggars should be no choosers.’ Another similar proverb from a different angle is, ‘If wishes were horses, then beggars would ride,’ which is more rarely used.
We’ve known for a long time that men — especially rich white men — are held to different standards than everyone else, but never has the difference been so nakedly clear.
There are now two court jesters leading two of the world’s major democracies: Boris Johnson, a known fabulist considered charming for running late and having mussy hair, just became the prime minister of Great Britain. And here in the U.S., President Donald Trump is a former reality TV star, accused sexual assaulter and known scam artist.
Could you imagine a woman or man of color getting away with any of that?
Female politicians can’t make mistakes ― with their emails, DNA tests or knowledge of world affairs or economics. A black male politician couldn’t even wear a tan suit or hoist a latte without turning heads. None of these people can lie repeatedly and get away with it.
But here we are, supposedly in an era of progress when it comes to gender and race, watching these buffoons land the highest offices in the world.
Basic gender theory explains a lot of this: Men, particularly straight, white wealthy ones, are expected to be competent in male-dominated arenas like politics and business. Even when they screw up, that expectation holds, said Dr. Stefanie K. Johnson, a management professor at the University of Colorado who specializes in the intersection between leadership and diversity.
“You’re starting with a baseline assumption that he knows what he’s doing, so whatever he’s doing must be thoughtful or strategic,” she said.
Women, on the other hand, are expected to be warm but not particularly competent. “Any strange behavior confirms that she was incompetent all along,” according to Dr. Johnson.
With Boris Johnson and Trump, though, there’s another phenomenon at play, she said. These guys have built up something called “idiosyncratic credit.”
It’s a term from sociology that refers to the credibility conferred on someone based on meeting certain societal norms. In Trump and Johnson’s case, they’re white men who fit the “leader” stereotype.
Thanks to their maleness, their whiteness, an Oxford accent (in Johnson’s case), or money (in Trump’s case, and to a lesser extent, Johnson’s), these men have already built up a certain amount of credibility. That credibility allows them to deviate from other social norms — like telling the truth or getting through the day without publicly insulting someone.
Johnson’s been able to escape relatively unscathed from a bunch of scandals ― multiple marital affairs, a plagiarism charge, racist comments. Trump gets a pass for seemingly everything, from attempted obstruction of justice to allegations of sexual assault from more than a dozen women and more than 10,000 documented lies or falsehoods while in office.
“By being white men, they just get credit,” said Dr. Johnson. “Then they’re allowed to use those credits and engage in deviant behavior, and people excuse it.”
If you’re a woman in a male arena like politics, you’re violating norms just by existing. You’ve got no credits. “So if you do something that could be perceived as incompetent, people will trash you,” Johnson explains.
The same holds for men of color, she adds. “To be a black man is also not stereotypical for politicians.” It’s not hard to find examples of Barack Obama being held to a different and higher standard than white presidents.
Female candidates are also expected to be attractive and put-together. Looks are extremely important for female politicians, said Amanda Hunter, research and communications director at the Barbara Lee Family Foundation, an organization that supports female politicians. “Voters decide if a woman is ready to lead based on her presentation and her personal style, tone of voice and speaking style.”
No female candidate could get away with looking like Johnson or Trump, as Bridget Read at The Cut wrote recently.
Johnson purposefully cultivates a sloppy style: crooked tie, wrinkled suits, messy hair. (This serves to make him seem less elite, despite his Eton/Oxford bonafides, Vanessa Friedman writes.) His predecessor Theresa May was rarely seen with a strand out of place.
Facebook executive Sheryl Sandberg dons stilettos and perfectly tailored clothes while the company CEO Mark Zuckerberg wears hoodies. Trump did his whole slovenly thing ― Scotch-taped tie, confoundingly baggy pants ― while Hillary Clinton consulted with stylists to figure out her look. She even had a line about her sartorial choices in her Twitter bio (“Wearer of pantsuits.”)
Bernie Sanders looks a bit wrinkled, “seemingly too passionate about the issues to iron,” writes Friedman. Sen. Kamala Harris, also contending for the 2020 nomination, is always polished.
To run for office, some women now take a course ― a course! ― in how to dress.
Beyond looks, female leaders seem to be held to a higher standard in all arenas. Look at former Vice President Joe Biden, now contending for the Democratic nomination for president, catching up on policy on the fly, flubbing appearances and apologizing for myriad missteps over a decades-long career. While Sen. Elizabeth Warren pushes out detailed plan after detailed plan, running essentially her own think tank. Yet her electability is in doubt because of one possible political mistake ― DNA testing. (Oh, and also her gender, of course.)
“For decades, Biden’s schtick has sort of been he says whatever he wants and then says he’s just a straight talker,” said Jennifer Lawless, a politics professor at the University of Virginia. People just shrug it off as Joe being Joe.
Something similar happens with Boris Johnson.
“His mistakes or perceived errors were always seen as evidence of his authenticity,” Tony Travers, a professor of government at the London School of Economics, told The New York Times this week in explaining Johnson’s appeal.
Expectations are so low in Johnson’s case that, when he was mayor of London, people were “pleasantly surprised” when the city didn’t crumble under his leadership, according to the Times. It’s like when Trump reads a speech off the teleprompter and is hailed for being presidential.
Still, Johnson and Trump are extreme examples of what male privilege lets guys get away with, Lawless said.
Most politicians ― male or female ― would never allow themselves to act like those two. “Almost no male candidate would think that would be a way to succeed,” she said.
Google and its flagship search portal opened the door to the possibilities of how to build a business empire on the back of organising and navigating the world’s information, as found on the internet. Now, a startup that’s built a search engine tailored to the needs of enterprises and their own quests for information has raised a round of funding to see if it can do the same for the B2B world.
AlphaSense, which provides a way for companies to quickly amass market intelligence around specific trends, industries and more to help them make business decisions, has closed a $50 million round of funding, a Series B that it’s planning to use to continue enhancing its product and expanding to more verticals.
The company counts some 1,000 clients on its books, with a heavy emphasis on investment banks and related financial services companies. That’s in part because of how the company got its start: Finnish co-founder and CEO Jaakko (Jack) Kokko had been an analyst at Morgan Stanley in a past life and understood the labor and time pain points of doing market research, and decided to build a platform to help shorten a good part of the information-gathering process.
“My experience as an analyst on Wall Street showed me just how fragmented information really was,” he said in an interview, citing as one example how complex sites like those of the FDA are not easy to navigate to look for new information and updates — the kind of thing that a computer would be much more adept at monitoring and flagging. “Even with the best tools and services, it still was really hard to manually get the work done, in part because of market volatility and the many factors that cause it. We can now do that with orders of magnitude more efficiency. Firms can now gather information in minutes that would have taken an hour. AlphaSense does the work of the best single analyst, or even a team of them.”
(Indeed, the “alpha” of AlphaSense appears to be a reference to finance: it’s a term that refers to the ability of a trader or portfolio manager to beat the typical market return.)
The lead investor in this round is very notable and says something about the company’s ambitions. It’s Innovation Endeavors, the VC firm backed by Eric Schmidt, who had been the CEO of none other than Google (the pace-setter and pioneer of the search-as-business model) for a decade, and then stayed on as chairman and ultimately board member of Google and then Alphabet (its later holding company) until just last June.
Schmidt presided over Google at what you could argue was its most important time, gaining speed and scale and transitioning from an academic idea into a full-fledged, huge public business whose flagship product has now entered the lexicon as a verb and (through search and other services like Android and YouTube) is a mainstay of how the vast majority of the world uses the web today. As such, he is good at spotting opportunities and gaps in the market, and while enterprise-based needs will never be as prominent as those of mass-market consumers, they can be just as lucrative.
“Information is the currency of business today, but data is overwhelming and fragmented, making it difficult for business professionals to find the right insights to drive key business decisions,” he said in a statement. “We were impressed by the way AlphaSense solves this with its AI and search technology, allowing businesses to proceed with the confidence that they have the right information driving their strategy.”
This brings the total raised by AlphaSense to $90 million, with other investors in this round including Soros Fund Management LLC and other unnamed existing investors. Previous backers had included Tom Glocer (the former Reuters CEO who himself is working on his own fintech startup, a security firm called BlueVoyant), the MassChallenge incubator, Tribeca Venture Partners and others. Kokko said AlphaSense is not disclosing its valuation at this point. (I’m guessing though that it’s definitely on the up.)
There have been others that have worked to try to tackle the idea of providing more targeted, and business-focused, search portals, from the likes of Wolfram Alpha (another alpha!) through to Lexis Nexis and others like Bloomberg’s terminals, FactSet, Business Quant and many more.
One interesting aspect of AlphaSense is how it’s both focused on pulling in requests as well as set up to push information to its users based on previous search parameters. Currently these are set up to only provide information, but over time, there is a clear opportunity to build services to let the engines take on some of the actions based on that information, such as adjusting asking prices for sales and other transactions.
“There are all kinds of things we could do,” said Kokko. “This is a massive untapped opportunity. But we’re not taking the human out of the loop, ever. Humans are the right ones to be making final decisions, and we’re just about helping them make those faster.”